i have changed loads in the past three years.
you can close your mouths now. =P
when i was 13, i was going through one of the most awkward stages of my life. i had just moved to UAE, just started hijab, and even though i loved the feeling of covering, i wasn't that comfortable with myself. i was always a chubby child, and i carried my chubbiness on to my initial teenage years.
i was always content in a way, though. i was fine with my appearance, my school, my friends, my life in general. the awkwardness was always there, but it just blended in with everything and i learned to live with it.
i got my fringe cut when i was fourteen. i liked it loads, and after observing many Arab women wearing their scarves/sheilas in a way that it showed off their fringe and managed to look decent/nice, i started doing it that way as well.
it was no problem in UAE. everyone was so used to this style of hijab that no one would ever criticize or even take a second look at me, and i liked it that way. i liked being accepted by the rest of the society even while wearing a non-conventional form of hijab.
then, i moved to Pakistan early this year. it SUCKS. i can't go anywhere without people looking curiously at my face, hijab and fringe. if i dress the way i dressed up in UAE, people will STARE. people here hardly have etiquette. they just stare and stare and stare and stare.
today, i went to this majlis (religious gathering). after it got over, this lady comes up to me.
Lady: what is this?
Lady: *gesturing at my fringe* what is this?
Me: it's a fringe.
Lady: you used to do full hijab, didn't you?
Lady: then what is this?
Me: i like it this way now.
Lady: *looking at me disapprovingly*
Me: *slowly backing away*
WHAT IS THEIR PROBLEM? okay, some of my relatives poked fun at my fringe in the beginning, and i was completely fine with that. after all, this style of hijab is quite rare in Pakistan, and it took some time for some of my relatives to get used to it. but for a complete stranger to actually come up to and hint that it's WRONG, and to look at me as if i'm committing a huge sin is just unacceptable. i kept my mouth shut because she was an adult, and i've got a decent set of manners so i didn't pass a disrespectful remark.
this completely ruined the good day i was having. i mean i can deal with the way people gape at me. i can deal with girls and boys in the school that i work in point at my hijab and giggle at me. but for someone to think that i am doing this incorrectly, to not understand the way i like covering myself, is just plain upsetting.
i absolutely love the way celebrities wear the headscarf. they do it more out of fashion than religion, but it just looks so lovely. it adds a kind of elegance, and a sense of respect and dignity to the beauty of a woman. i think its more classy to cover and look fashionable rather than expose your body and just be stripped off all of the natural beauty which needs to be protected.
that's just my opinion, of course. the celebrities below look equally stunning in their short dresses, but then it's just so easy to disrespect them that way.
if it's okay for them:
|Rihanna, Lady Gaga, Angelina Jolie|
|Janet Jackson, Audrey Hepburn, Christina Aguilera|
|Inezvinoodh - courtesy Ethnic Esthetic|
then why not for me?